For years the childhood sexual abuse haunted and nearly destroyed me, but now I take my pain and turn it to positive energy to try to tell others that they are not a defined by the abuse the y endured and that they can begin living as survivors and also help others for in helping others know that they can make it through it we in turn help reassure ourselves. We have lived through it and must not continue to live in it in our mind over and over daily. It isn't easy but it can be done. I wish I could take away your pain, but I can't but I can tell you as a survivor myself that when you use the negative as a positive it does make life easier for you emotionally and in many other ways. We can't change what was done to us, but we can help others because we went through it too. tcc
Thursday, February 6, 2014
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Many Christian's Are Also Victim's of Domestic Violence At Home
If you think that domestic violence doesn't affects Christian's then you are wrong, it happens more often than not. Sadly it is such a hidden thing that even most pastor's don't even know when someone in their church is being affected by DV. In my opinion churches need to implement free literature on DV and support systems for that area as many could benefit from it and that could be the only place they can get the information form when in a DV situation and sometimes not even then. Those who are affected by DV have learned to hide the pain behind a smile many because they feel ashamed and scared. Do not look down on anyone in such a situation, you cannot understand if you have not been in that situation. Most victim's are fearful of not only the abuser but also of judgment from others if they were to learn of their situation. You cannot force anyone out of a DV situation, but you can offer prayer, love and support. Domestic violence isn't limited just to physical violence it also can include but not limited to the following,verbal, emotional and mental abuse etc.If someone tells you that you are stupid, incompetent, ignorant, ugly, etc that is a form of abuse, if someone blames you for their bad behavior and makes you feel guilty for their choices that is a form of abuse, if they guilt you with threats of leaving and/or suicide that is a form of manipulative abuse, etc. Know that you are not alone, that there are options, support groups and ways to get out. Do not let others shame you for what you are going through. Put God first, pray and ask Him to show you what to do and where to go. You are always welcome to comment here or private inbox me at tchristi41@aol.com I am not a Dr. or a certified counselor I am however a survivor of domestic abuse, childhood sexual abuse, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, severe obesity, etc. I am here to help if I can.
Also check out www.whengeorgiasmiles.org a site that Dr. Phil's wife stared that has a free app to help keep you safe, I hope you will go to the site and check it out and download the free app. Be safe, be aware and be blessed.... Teresa
Also check out www.whengeorgiasmiles.org a site that Dr. Phil's wife stared that has a free app to help keep you safe, I hope you will go to the site and check it out and download the free app. Be safe, be aware and be blessed.... Teresa
Monday, September 30, 2013
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Fear, Depression, Anxiety Can Wreak Havoc On Our Health And Emotions If We Aren't Careful...
Friday, September 20, 2013
Domestic Violence: Biblical Scriptures Against Evil (Which Can Include Abuse And How A Man Should Love A Woman And Vs Versa)) And Hotline Information
If you need help right away please call 911... Click on the highlighted words for The Hotline link: Domestic Violence Help Via The Hotline also the numbers are below where you may call as well...
Many would tend to think that once you become a Christian that you will never be sad, hurt or abused yet sadly that isn't always the case. When someone is being abused whether they are a Christian or not they tend to hide that fact for many reasons and so there will be times you will see others at church and/or church related functions/missions and not even realize that the person is being abused in some way. usually those being abused keep it to themselves for one or more of the following reasons, fear of the abuser, fear of be ridiculed for staying, shame, humiliation etc. They may always have a smile on their face or they may simply keep to themselves or they may be completely involved in many area whatever they are doing it is to serve God and to perhaps get away from the abuse and to deal with the abuse. I would love to see churches offer Domestic violence counseling and/or support groups in the churches. They must be confidential counseling/groups in order to keep the ones being abused safe and free from repercussions from the abusers. I do not believer that God wants us to be abused by spouses or even those we may date. See Jer. 29:11
relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds andeducation levels.
Many would tend to think that once you become a Christian that you will never be sad, hurt or abused yet sadly that isn't always the case. When someone is being abused whether they are a Christian or not they tend to hide that fact for many reasons and so there will be times you will see others at church and/or church related functions/missions and not even realize that the person is being abused in some way. usually those being abused keep it to themselves for one or more of the following reasons, fear of the abuser, fear of be ridiculed for staying, shame, humiliation etc. They may always have a smile on their face or they may simply keep to themselves or they may be completely involved in many area whatever they are doing it is to serve God and to perhaps get away from the abuse and to deal with the abuse. I would love to see churches offer Domestic violence counseling and/or support groups in the churches. They must be confidential counseling/groups in order to keep the ones being abused safe and free from repercussions from the abusers. I do not believer that God wants us to be abused by spouses or even those we may date. See Jer. 29:11
Jeremiah 29:11 King James Version (KJV)
11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
That scripture plainly tells us that God wants us to have peace and not evil therefore He would not want us to be abused which is evil.
Also see: John 10:10
Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
There are many many other scriptures that would also attest to the fact that abuse is wrong. With that we need to teach those in church that abuse isn't Biblical. We also need to let them know that the church is here to help those being abused so that they don't think that they are alone and that they must stay and be abused any longer. Reach out to them via God's word during some of your sermons, on the streets, in stores etc. We need Biblical pamphlets on Biblical principals against abuse with numbers where they can reach out for help.
For A Domestic Violence Hotline you can call the following:
The Hotline by phone at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
That scripture plainly tells us that God wants us to have peace and not evil therefore He would not want us to be abused which is evil.
Also see: John 10:10
John 10:10
King James Version (KJV)
10 The
thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am
come that they might have life, and that they might have it more
abundantly.
Ephesians 5:25 King James Bible
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:25 King James Bible
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
There are many many other scriptures that would also attest to the fact that abuse is wrong. With that we need to teach those in church that abuse isn't Biblical. We also need to let them know that the church is here to help those being abused so that they don't think that they are alone and that they must stay and be abused any longer. Reach out to them via God's word during some of your sermons, on the streets, in stores etc. We need Biblical pamphlets on Biblical principals against abuse with numbers where they can reach out for help.
For A Domestic Violence Hotline you can call the following:
The Hotline by phone at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
SIGNS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE MAY INCLUDE ONE OR MORE OF THE FOLLOWING:
Excerpts from http://www.thehotline.org/get-educated/what-is-domestic-violence/ are below:
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in anyAbuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
- Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you
- Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive
- Tries to isolate you from family or friends
- Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with
- Does not want you to work
- Controls finances or refuses to share money
- Punishes you by withholding affection
- Expects you to ask permission
- Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets
- Humiliates you in any way
You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
- Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)
- Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you
- Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place
- Scared you by driving recklessly
- Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
- Forced you to leave your home
- Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving
- Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention
- Hurt your children
- Used physical force in sexual situations
Sunday, September 15, 2013
We All Have Dreams And Even At Nearly 53 I Still Have Dreams I Want To Fulfill...
I
was thinking about one of my dreams to become a public speaker to
include but not limited to the subjects of childhood sexual abuse,
domestic abuse as well as mental and emotional abuse, homelessness and
obesity plus other areas I have experienced myself all of which I am a
survivor of... I would also love to be able to find a way to start
programs for those who are also going through those things and/or are
survivors and through it already. I have several dreams and I want my
children and family to be proud of me. Right now I have not done any of
the above per sey, but I do talk to people I meet in a day to day basis
and try to encourage them and pray for them... I am standing on the
following scriptures to include but not limited to Jer. 29:11 Jer.
33:3 Hab. 2:3 and Heb. 11:1 Rom. 8:28
I Hope That You Will Read And Comment On My Blogs As Well As My Facebook page Surviving Victimization
I hope that you will read and comment on my blogs as well as my Facebook page Surviving Victimization. Thank you... Teresa
http://survivorslikeus.blogspot.com/
http://domesticviolencehappenstochristians2.blogspot.com/
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http://parentsmakemistakes.blogspot.com/
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http://survivorslikeus.blogspot.com/
http://domesticviolencehappenstochristians2.blogspot.com/
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