Monday, September 30, 2013
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Fear, Depression, Anxiety Can Wreak Havoc On Our Health And Emotions If We Aren't Careful...
Friday, September 20, 2013
Domestic Violence: Biblical Scriptures Against Evil (Which Can Include Abuse And How A Man Should Love A Woman And Vs Versa)) And Hotline Information
If you need help right away please call 911... Click on the highlighted words for The Hotline link: Domestic Violence Help Via The Hotline also the numbers are below where you may call as well...
Many would tend to think that once you become a Christian that you will never be sad, hurt or abused yet sadly that isn't always the case. When someone is being abused whether they are a Christian or not they tend to hide that fact for many reasons and so there will be times you will see others at church and/or church related functions/missions and not even realize that the person is being abused in some way. usually those being abused keep it to themselves for one or more of the following reasons, fear of the abuser, fear of be ridiculed for staying, shame, humiliation etc. They may always have a smile on their face or they may simply keep to themselves or they may be completely involved in many area whatever they are doing it is to serve God and to perhaps get away from the abuse and to deal with the abuse. I would love to see churches offer Domestic violence counseling and/or support groups in the churches. They must be confidential counseling/groups in order to keep the ones being abused safe and free from repercussions from the abusers. I do not believer that God wants us to be abused by spouses or even those we may date. See Jer. 29:11
relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds andeducation levels.
Many would tend to think that once you become a Christian that you will never be sad, hurt or abused yet sadly that isn't always the case. When someone is being abused whether they are a Christian or not they tend to hide that fact for many reasons and so there will be times you will see others at church and/or church related functions/missions and not even realize that the person is being abused in some way. usually those being abused keep it to themselves for one or more of the following reasons, fear of the abuser, fear of be ridiculed for staying, shame, humiliation etc. They may always have a smile on their face or they may simply keep to themselves or they may be completely involved in many area whatever they are doing it is to serve God and to perhaps get away from the abuse and to deal with the abuse. I would love to see churches offer Domestic violence counseling and/or support groups in the churches. They must be confidential counseling/groups in order to keep the ones being abused safe and free from repercussions from the abusers. I do not believer that God wants us to be abused by spouses or even those we may date. See Jer. 29:11
Jeremiah 29:11 King James Version (KJV)
11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
That scripture plainly tells us that God wants us to have peace and not evil therefore He would not want us to be abused which is evil.
Also see: John 10:10
Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
There are many many other scriptures that would also attest to the fact that abuse is wrong. With that we need to teach those in church that abuse isn't Biblical. We also need to let them know that the church is here to help those being abused so that they don't think that they are alone and that they must stay and be abused any longer. Reach out to them via God's word during some of your sermons, on the streets, in stores etc. We need Biblical pamphlets on Biblical principals against abuse with numbers where they can reach out for help.
For A Domestic Violence Hotline you can call the following:
The Hotline by phone at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
That scripture plainly tells us that God wants us to have peace and not evil therefore He would not want us to be abused which is evil.
Also see: John 10:10
John 10:10
King James Version (KJV)
10 The
thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am
come that they might have life, and that they might have it more
abundantly.
Ephesians 5:25 King James Bible
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:25 King James Bible
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Ephesians 5:28
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
There are many many other scriptures that would also attest to the fact that abuse is wrong. With that we need to teach those in church that abuse isn't Biblical. We also need to let them know that the church is here to help those being abused so that they don't think that they are alone and that they must stay and be abused any longer. Reach out to them via God's word during some of your sermons, on the streets, in stores etc. We need Biblical pamphlets on Biblical principals against abuse with numbers where they can reach out for help.
For A Domestic Violence Hotline you can call the following:
The Hotline by phone at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
SIGNS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE MAY INCLUDE ONE OR MORE OF THE FOLLOWING:
Excerpts from http://www.thehotline.org/get-educated/what-is-domestic-violence/ are below:
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in anyAbuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
- Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you
- Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive
- Tries to isolate you from family or friends
- Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with
- Does not want you to work
- Controls finances or refuses to share money
- Punishes you by withholding affection
- Expects you to ask permission
- Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets
- Humiliates you in any way
You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
- Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)
- Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you
- Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place
- Scared you by driving recklessly
- Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
- Forced you to leave your home
- Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving
- Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention
- Hurt your children
- Used physical force in sexual situations
Sunday, September 15, 2013
We All Have Dreams And Even At Nearly 53 I Still Have Dreams I Want To Fulfill...
I
was thinking about one of my dreams to become a public speaker to
include but not limited to the subjects of childhood sexual abuse,
domestic abuse as well as mental and emotional abuse, homelessness and
obesity plus other areas I have experienced myself all of which I am a
survivor of... I would also love to be able to find a way to start
programs for those who are also going through those things and/or are
survivors and through it already. I have several dreams and I want my
children and family to be proud of me. Right now I have not done any of
the above per sey, but I do talk to people I meet in a day to day basis
and try to encourage them and pray for them... I am standing on the
following scriptures to include but not limited to Jer. 29:11 Jer.
33:3 Hab. 2:3 and Heb. 11:1 Rom. 8:28
I Hope That You Will Read And Comment On My Blogs As Well As My Facebook page Surviving Victimization
I hope that you will read and comment on my blogs as well as my Facebook page Surviving Victimization. Thank you... Teresa
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http://parentsmakemistakes.blogspot.com/
http://www.tchristi41.blogspot.com/
http://survivorslikeus.blogspot.com/
http://domesticviolencehappenstochristians2.blogspot.com/
https://www.facebook.com/survivingvictimization
http://parentsmakemistakes.blogspot.com/
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Domestic Violence Happens To Christians Too
Many people in church are victims and/or survivors of domestic abuse, yet most don't even realize that about the person sitting right next to them or somewhere near them that is either being hurt or has been hurt and now out of that. Many times the evidence of the abuse is hidden behind smiles and laughter, under clothes, etc. If they are still being abused they don't want others to know the shame and humiliation they are feeling and if they are out of the abuse and still haven't gotten to where they no longer feel ashamed and humiliated they may still not tell others of hat they went through. Their spouses may or may not go to church with them. There have been times while at church that God had me to looks around at someone out of the blue for me to see the pain in their eyes and has had me to go talk to them and I find out they are in an abusive relationship/marriage and I pray for them and I listen to them. I have met and talked with people at church, on the streets, in a store etc. I would love to see churches preach on Domestic Abuse and use such scriptures that show how a man should treat his wife and how a wife should treat a man ( should the man be being abused) to include buy not limited to the following:
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; (KJV)
So he is there even when I feel overwhelmed with the past, we can't forget the past, but we can forgive those in our past that hurt us and forgive ourselves. It can be done one day at a time...
Victims of abuse should consult with the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-7233
- I Peter 3:7, NIV
- 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
- "The mouth of the righteous is a well of life, but violence covers the mouth of the wicked." ~Proverbs 10:11, NKJV
- "So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God." ~James 1:19-20, NKJV
Ephesians 5:33
King James Version (KJV)
33 Nevertheless
let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself;
and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Ephesians 5:33
King James Version (KJV)
33 Nevertheless
let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself;
and the wife see that she reverence her husband
I would like to see churches with programs/classes for those in domestic violence situations that need support and those who are out of those situations and yet still need support. They think that they have to keep it silent so others don't see what they are going through and sometimes that is more for their and their children's safety than anything else. You may wonder how do I know about Christian's being in such relationships/marriages, because I was once a victim of DV while a Christian and now I am a survivor of DV as a Christian. I would go to church smiling and laughing as if nothing were wrong (even though I was being abused in both DV marriages), and after I was out of those marriages and living as a survivor I would smile when I felt like breaking down crying which sometimes I still do, There are times the memories come flooding back but then God reminds me of this
2 Corinthians 10:5I would like to see churches with programs/classes for those in domestic violence situations that need support and those who are out of those situations and yet still need support. They think that they have to keep it silent so others don't see what they are going through and sometimes that is more for their and their children's safety than anything else. You may wonder how do I know about Christian's being in such relationships/marriages, because I was once a victim of DV while a Christian and now I am a survivor of DV as a Christian. I would go to church smiling and laughing as if nothing were wrong (even though I was being abused in both DV marriages), and after I was out of those marriages and living as a survivor I would smile when I felt like breaking down crying which sometimes I still do, There are times the memories come flooding back but then God reminds me of this
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; (KJV)
So he is there even when I feel overwhelmed with the past, we can't forget the past, but we can forgive those in our past that hurt us and forgive ourselves. It can be done one day at a time...
Victims of abuse should consult with the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-7233
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